Are You Still Making New Year’s Resolutions?

If not, why not? 

 

There are lots of statistics out there to show that most new year’s resolutions are abandoned by February. There is no shortage of people telling you, don’t bother with those resolutions because they are another implement to beat yourself up with.

 

What no one is talking about is why people abandon their resolutions. It’s like saying a plane crashed, so we shouldn’t fly, rather than doing a root cause analysis to see why the plane crashed. The resolutions are not the problem, it’s human behaviour that is the problem.

 

You cannot arrive unless you have a destination. Rather than give up on your destination, what you should be examining is why you failed.

 

  1. Was the goal even yours?
  2. Did you prepare properly?
  3. Did you have adequate support?

 

Is the goal really yours?

 

It is hard to do something that you don’t really want to do. You can’t throw yourself into something to please your parents or your friends. You have to do it for you. You can’t live someone else’s life. It is hard enough going after the things that you want, manufacturing the will to do something that you don’t care about is just setting yourself up for failure because the moment the going gets tough, you will abandon ship. Ask yourself, what do you really want? Get that clarity, and then go for it.

 

Preparation

 

We have all heard the saying that failing to prepare is preparing to fail and yet that is the attitude most people take to their resolutions. It is not given much thought, they wake in January and decide it is a good idea to exercise everyday. Besides, all their friends are doing it and they don’t want to be left out. So off they go for a run on the 1st or 2nd of January. By the 3rd they are wondering whose bright idea it was to add a daily outdoor run to their routine as the temperature heads towards freezing.

 

On the other hand, if you have prepared for the run and really thought about it and decided that is what you truly want to do, then you start off with a proper training plan, the right gear and perhaps even engage a trainer. With that, you will have a sustainable plan that is measurable and adjustable. That is how you stick to your plan.

 

Support

 

If you are going after a goal that is aligned to your values, then throwing yourself at it should be a doddle. That said, we are humans and sometimes, motivation is not our friend. You wake up on the wrong side of the bed, your presentation that you have been slaving over didn’t go well. This puts you in a bad mood for the rest of the day and in the evening, nothing but a tub of ice-cream or a whole bottle of wine will do because you need cheering up. So your plans for healthy eating and your dry January goes out of the window. Such is life.

 

But, you need to have a repeat scenario tomorrow if you have support. The fact is, there will always be obstacles. The mindset of a winner is one who keeps going no matter what, and to do that, you need to be able to bypass your own psychology when it’s tripping you up. You need someone who is not mired in your story of ‘woe is me’ to get you to wind your neck in so that you can see the wood for the trees. Someone who can give you the perspective that stuff happens but you don’t have to smear yourself in it. That support can be in the form of a mentor, or a support group.

 

Do the above three things and you will get to the end of the year, look back and just be so proud of your achievements. You are a winner at heart, all you need is to give yourself a chance to succeed.

 

 

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